- you can get through

We cannot ask this question too often. What is jealousy to you? Does jealousy really exist, and is it what we think it is? 

 When we choose to confront the feeling of jealousy rather than run away from it, we can see more clearly what jealousy truly is for each of us. Jealousy is not an emotion. It can show up as grief or rage, hatred or self-loathing­ jealousy is an umbrella word that covers the wide range of emotions we might feel when our partners make something disrespectfull in our opinion.


Jealousy may be an expression of insecurity, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, feeling left out, feeling not good enough, feeling inadequate, feeling awful. Your jealousy may be based in territorial­ ity, or in competitiveness, or in some other emotion that’s clamoring - to be heard under the jealous racket in your brain. 

 Sometimes it may show up as blind screaming rage-and being blind can make it very difficult to see.….Once you have made a commitment to refuse to act on your jeal­ousy, you become free to start reducing the amount of power you let your jealousy have over you. One way to do this is simply by allowing yourself to feel it. Just feel it. It will hurt, and you will feel frightened and confused, but if you sit still and listen to yourself with compassion and support for the scared child inside, the first thing you will learn is that the experience of jealousy is survivable. 

 You have the strength to get through, I learned that myself.

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